Perhaps it’s just the way I was raised – perhaps it is my faith in God – or perhaps it’s the confidence I have in myself that has me trying to live by the Golden Rule. You know, treating others as I would like to be treated. It seems like such an easy concept. I remember when I was first introduced to the phrase – it made absolute sense to me. But I’m amazed by the people who fail in this aspect of their lives.
I say that perhaps it is my own confidence because I don’t feel that I will lose anything – or nothing will be taken from me if I treat others with kindness and in a manner of respect. I have been witness, as well as the recipient of the mentality of do unto others before they do unto you. My experience with these people and my observation of them is they manage a strong front but underneath the façade, they are afraid that they will be taken advantage of in any given situation.
My answer or my philosophy to that issue – because people do take advantage – however, if we were all living by the Golden Rule – then we would all be conscientious of taking one another for granted. Although, I am no saint – and I become absentminded and may take someone for granted. Although, I do try to stay vigilant in treating others with the respect I feel they deserve and apologize when I find that I have failed in living the Golden Rule.
When you “get” others before they “get” you, then you stifle their ability to perform and do their best. We are all human and we make human mistakes. No one is exempt from this. What we don’t realize is that when we don’t allow for human error, we bring condemnation down upon ourselves, because how can we be forgiven our human error, when we cannot allow for the error of others.
I’ve heard it said – Don’t judge others because they sin differently than you. We all walk our own path in life and I can’t judge you because you’ve made a different decision than I have. I have not walked in your shoes – I don’t know your pain or your tolerance, therefore, I treat you as I would want someone to treat me if I were to make a decision or act in a way that goes in an adverse direction from what other’s feel is acceptable.
I live by my values and my standards, but I don’t expect for you to live by them. I simply expect for you to respect them, as I respect yours. Giving other’s the benefit of the doubt and allowing them to be who they are would make the world a softer place to live. Hearts are hardened and so many people are so cynical that it makes me sad. Please don’t misunderstand me, I am no Pollyanna, in that I feel that the world is a sunshiny place to live, however, if we all treated one another with a little more kindness, I do believe in a better world.
I hope you will conscientiously hold the door open for someone today. I hope that when that person doesn’t let you into traffic that instead of cursing them, you say a prayer for them because they must be trying to work through a million troubles while sitting in traffic and they simply don’t see you. When someone makes a different decision than you would, please remember that you are not in their day-to-day life and you don’t know what influences they are under to lead them to make the decision they make. Have compassion instead of condemnation. Love one another as you would like to be loved…it’s as simple as that folks. I hope you can see your way to do that today.
Have a blessed day –
Yours truly, Ann