Daily Archives: September 14, 2015

Why is Perfect Always Out of Reach?

My husband and I did a stupid thing this weekend. We went to look at a house that we have no chance in hades to be able to afford. Although, we had no idea before looking at it that it would be that much.  However, the property was P-E-R-F-E-C-T – PERFECT!!

Well, by perfect, I mean that I fell in love with it; and it didn’t matter that the windows need to be replaced and that the front door didn’t seal very well. I didn’t notice that I would have half the cabinets than I have in my house now. All I noticed was that it was all on one level. It had a formal dining room, along with an eat in kitchen. It also had a formal living room and a sunroom in the back, and a killer shower in the master bath!  I’m telling you, it was perfect.

However, the tag attached to it was well over $300,000 and way out of our price range. The ads on this website aren’t doing THAT well!  😉

Why do we do this to ourselves? You know, put ourselves in a position to want something we’ve got no way of being able to obtain.  I guess not everyone does it, but I feel like there is a great many that do.

I think there are a couple of reasons that we place ourselves in a situation to spur on frustration….

We are ready for a change.
Our lives have reached a point that we need something new, but we’re not sure we can put our finger on it. We are willing to see if we could wish our way out of current frustrations by giving ourselves something so out of reach that magically our present situation will somehow feel better to us.  Seriously, what kind of thinking is that?!

We need a dream.
When we don’t have something that we are working toward then our lives become stagnate and we don’t feel our purpose. When our ambition grows stale it sure makes it difficult to get up and turn off the alarm on Monday morning.

I think by looking at something completely out of reach, it triggers the dream factor in our ‘psychy’ to be so turned on by what we can not attain, that we begin searching for that dream that can be obtained.

Setting goals is a way to keep us working and moving forward with some type of excited anticipation.  The thing is, we should all enjoy the journey – just be certain that we have a destination that requires a journey worth enjoying!  And try to stay within your price range….  😉